All my life I have raged. My tiny lungs, as soon as I emerged from the womb, throbbed with fury. My mom used to say it made her nervous how much I screamed, like there might be something wrong. This is probably a normal thing for parents to worry about, but this story foreshadowed struggles with healthy anger later in life. Even the phrase “healthy anger” feels like gaslighting, or at the very least a misinformed perspective on the origins and functions of rage. Rage like all emotions offers information.
Yes - will let you know if I try it out- It is so hilarious that someone figured out how to monetize rage and use all the vintage TVs etc. it sounds like an amazing release !
I feel you, Sarah! The thing I learned about anger is that the rage is endless, as long as we keep feeding it. That's not to say we should ignore it, but there's a difference between feeling it and feeding it. When we look for things to be mad at, we are feeding it. When we stoke the flames of our rage, we are feeding it. In lots and lots of ways we may not see, we feed it. Or, at least, I did. Anger is a good friend. It's a protector. A warm blanket. It's something I know well...and am good at. But Anger is also exhausting and depleting and needs to know its place. And that would be my idea of "healthy anger". There are moments when anger is the most valid emotion...but not that many. Not as many as I had, even privately. Don't get me wrong, I still flip off stupid drivers. Now, I do it with a smile on my face and I'm not pissed about it for the rest of the drive. Progress! LOL. xo
Yes - will let you know if I try it out- It is so hilarious that someone figured out how to monetize rage and use all the vintage TVs etc. it sounds like an amazing release !
https://rageground.com/ I never heard of these smash rooms before - a friend told me about this today, a couple hours after I read this post!!!
I used to be uncomfortable with rage but I do find it’s a very important barometer.... as long as it’s not making the decisions !
I feel you, Sarah! The thing I learned about anger is that the rage is endless, as long as we keep feeding it. That's not to say we should ignore it, but there's a difference between feeling it and feeding it. When we look for things to be mad at, we are feeding it. When we stoke the flames of our rage, we are feeding it. In lots and lots of ways we may not see, we feed it. Or, at least, I did. Anger is a good friend. It's a protector. A warm blanket. It's something I know well...and am good at. But Anger is also exhausting and depleting and needs to know its place. And that would be my idea of "healthy anger". There are moments when anger is the most valid emotion...but not that many. Not as many as I had, even privately. Don't get me wrong, I still flip off stupid drivers. Now, I do it with a smile on my face and I'm not pissed about it for the rest of the drive. Progress! LOL. xo